Picture, if you will, a mother hen stretching her wings wide, inviting her chicks to seek refuge beneath her soft feathers. There’s a rare serenity on her face, a deep unwavering peace, knowing her young are safe and secure. Much like that hen, mothers are fiercely protective, especially when navigating the daunting path of raising children alone.

Across the world, countless single moms rise each day, determined to provide for their children despite absent partners, limited resources, and overwhelming odds. Their struggle is real, and so too is their courage. Yet, amid the daily trials, there’s an even greater reality: the same God who entrusted these precious lives to single mothers stands ready to help them raise their children. As the timeless promise in the book of Isaiah reminds, “Fear not for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will help you,” (Isaiah 41:10). 

Single mom, sometimes society has a way of making you think that because you are raising a child in a single-parent home, you don’t measure up. That is a fallacy. Yes, it is a beautiful thing to raise a child in a two-parent home. Ideal even. But God himself who knows human nature so well, knows that will not always be the case. So, in His wisdom, He makes the same provision for the single mom as he makes for the married couple who has children.  That provision is Himself.  He wants to partner with you to raise the child He gave you. If God blew the breath of life into your womb and allowed you to become a mother, then rest assured that He will help you take care of the child He gave you. Know this, one of the many beautiful things about God is that He completes anything He starts. First you must choose to co-parent with Him.

Perhaps you once dreamed of a picture-perfect family, or maybe life’s twists and turns left you navigating motherhood solo. Regardless of how you arrived at this moment, by choice, circumstance, or adversity, being a single mom can feel isolated. Financial hardship, lack of support, and absent partners can weigh heavily on your heart. But take heart, you and your child can thrive. Let go of past regrets and focus on moving forward. Remember, Jesus was a carpenter. He knew how to build, rebuild and restore. Place your trust, your struggles, and your dreams in His hands. He’s still in the business of rebuilding lives and mending what’s broken. Put you and your child in his hands and watch him fix the broken pieces and rebuild your life.

You see, you can raise your child without a man in the home, but you should try, try as hard as you can not to raise your child without Christ in the home. I grew up hearing that it takes a village to raise a child and in the past that may have been true.  But in today’s world and the height of madness that is going on in the village and among the villagers, you don’t need a village to raise a child. You need God to raise a child.  Once you partner with Him, He will put the right people in your life to help you raise your child.  Single mom do not be afraid. God is with you.  He did not help you carry your child for nine months then suddenly after the child is born, he decides to leave you.  No, not at all. Pray over your child day and night.  Consecrate him/her before God and watch God make a Daniel out of your son and an Esther out of your daughter.

When you were in that labor room and it was time to give birth, you had to push through pain, blood, sweat and probably tears for that child to come into this world and you did it!  It is the same with life, you will have to push through painful circumstances, sometimes your heart will bleed, your brow may burst beads of sweat day and night as you try to make an honest living. You may cry sometimes but remember there is no promise land without the wilderness and once you don’t faint you are bound to get there, girl. And just as the doctors were there helping you to deliver your child safely into this world, so is Dr. Jesus there beside you now, guiding you through, so that no weapon, and I mean no weapon that is formed against you, or your child prospers.

I must say though, emphasize rather that if the fruit of your womb is a son, there are some who will tell you that as a single mom you are incapable of raising a son.  They have an emotional baton with a guilt handle that they swing at single mothers who are emotional and vulnerable.  They will try to beat down on you by attempting to force their beliefs on you pointing out that “you are not a man,” so you don’t know how to raise a son. (In other words, they are telling you that God made a mistake and gave you the wrong gender to raise). And many, many of these individuals are so manipulative that they will attempt to twist the holy scriptures to support their biases. Pardon me, I meant support their nonsense.  They try to make you feel incompetent and unworthy of raising your own son. Because they see your susceptibility, they prey on you and if you allow them, they will insert themselves as the ones anointed to raise your son.  Watch out for these “strange individuals” with “strange agendas and twisted plots.”  When they come your way, interceded before God like Hannah in 1^stSamuel 1:1-28, and just as Hannah used prayer and moved the hand of God to action over Samuel’s life, so shall you intercede and move the hand of God in the life of your son.  And I tell you this, the only prayer God does not hear is the one that was not prayed.

Single mom, pray, pray and pray for your child. God will not only hear but He will answer you. Not only does He say, “For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and give you an expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11), but He promises that “I will contend with him who contends with you, and I will save your children” (Isaiah 49:25). When “God sends you help” to raise your man-child you will know, for by their fruit you shall know them. Those people (or that person) will not undervalue your ability or make you feel undeserving of the seed you bore.  He or they will be men of valor who under the influence of the Holy Spirit will bless you as a single mom and help to pull the king out of the David you birth.

Single mom, you are a lady, a daughter of the King which means you are a princess. You are astute, resilient, gifted, audacious, tenacious, gentle, and above all you are BLESSED. With God by your side strengthening you, you can do all things (Philippians 4:13). Yes, that includes raising your child the right way. Just partner with God, keep on hoping, keep on trusting, keep on working and while doing so, watch God work!

You are a single mom, THE BEARER OF LIFE partnering with God, THE GIVER OF LIFE.  Don’t forget who you are. Choosing to partner with God as a single mother is an invitation to witness your children being raised triumphantly and successfully. In the journey of motherhood, especially when faced with the challenges of raising a child alone, relying on God offers a source of unwavering support and guidance. As you walk this path, trust that God’s wisdom and strength will equip you for every step, ensuring that your children grow in an environment nurtured by faith, hope, and love. By aligning yourself with God your journey will not just be survivable, it will be victorious.